Pat Falvey is a legend; an adventurer who has defied death on several occasions, a man who is grateful to be alive because by now, in his own words he shouldn’t be.
Having made and lost millions in his very early life, Pat was within moments of ending it all, when the faces of his two, then young, children popped into mind and he hit the brakes and broke down instead. From that moment on he went on to live the fullest of lives and took the Coffee at Eleven regulars on a whirlwind tour of his exploits.
Pencilsketch: Pat had his first business at the age of 7, left school at 15 to become a millionaire. After achieving his financial goals by 20. Pat over traded in the industry and went broke at 29, losing everything.
He re-focused and rebuilt his business and, an adventuring career out of adversity. Retiring at 40 from corporate life to follow his dreams as an adventurer going on to climb Mt. Everest four times, summiting twice, once from Nepal and once from Tibet.
Pat has walked to South Pole, Crossed Greenland and led 63 other High Altitude Adventures Worldwide. Pat was the first person in the world to have completed Seven Summits twice including Mt Everest. He has lived with over 20 tribes to study what it is that has driven man since our evolution to conquer, to challenge and to succeed.
We finished a fascinating chat with Pat as he told us to Be Resilient, Believe in Ourselves, and Face Our Fears.
Ladies and gentlemen, I invite you to stick on the kettle, grab a coffee, grant yourself a few minutes of L’Oreal’ time (you’re worth it) and allow us to present you a very special “We Were There When…” moment. Something in this for everyone.
We Were There When… Pat Falvey told us to Be Resilient, Believe in Ourselves, and Face Our Fears… on The Coffee at Eleven Show
Yours Truly: A very good morning, ladies and gentlemen. You are more than welcome to this episode of The Coffee at Eleven Show, brought to you by Wig-Wam.ie SME Peer Support. Delighted and excited to introduce you to my special guest today, a man that I’ve been a fan for several years, a friend for the last few years, and a man I admire so much, and a man who’s literally going to take us on a whirlwind journey. That I can guarantee. Pat Falvey, you’re more than welcome. Please say hello and show us your coffee mug, please.
Pat Falvey: Hi, everybody. And it’s absolutely a pleasure being here. But this was given to me by my parents. I’m says, “Every time I think of you, my wonderful son.” Like, they actually cry with joy, right? And they overflow with love. And believe it or not, I used to be really crapless about my mother kissing me and hugging me when I went to school. But now I understand that she’s in her 80s, how important it is for her to be loved and to get those actually hugs that we’re all so much wishing to get these days. You know? So yeah, that’s my mug this morning and I enjoy it.
Yours Truly: We’ve gone way over time, but that’s not a problem in the slightest, right? Not a problem in the slightest, because anybody, if you have to go, sorry to lose you, but we have the replay of it later. We fully understand because we have gone over time. But it’s been so rich and I’d love to open it up if I may, Pat, if you have the time. Can we open it up to Q and A from the floor? Is that okay with you, Pat?
Pat Falvey: Yeah, that’s perfect.
Before I do that, I’m going to ask you if I may, and we spoke earlier, just one tip. What tips would you give to somebody, your nearest and dearest, little Jack? Can you give us a tip?
Basically what I do is … And right, okay, because you know, I do this … And I’m always ready to give someone the advice that I would take as word. First and foremost, have resilience, right? Resilience is one of the most important things. And that can be learned, by the way. It’s also about believe in yourself, right? Even in this bad time, believe no matter what’s going to actually happen to you that you have the ability to do and get out of it, right? And the other one is face your fears. As you could see about fears, what happens to most people is they run away from their fears. But the natural fact, that fear’s biting them in the ass, right? So just tackle them, and half the time, it’s not half as bad as you think, and things will get better.
Look after your mental health, by the way. That’s very, very important. They were treating me with Prozac and I was actually suffering from self esteem, depression. And by the way, there is a huge amount of a difference. And you know, you can throw people into it. Stay fit, because it enacts the endorphins. Get out into the air, try to get those close endorphins going. Right? Okay. Or if not, just get up a few thousand steps per day. Slow down and love yourself. Right? My mother used to always have a great saying. If you don’t love yourself, how do you expect anyone else to love you? Right? Because if you don’t love yourself, you’re not being your authentic self, which means that’s what’s creating the fact that you’re not loving yourself for not being yourself. Right? There’s a great saying, and I know some of you may have in the past said, “Who’s this guy Pat Falvey with all of these dreams and goals and things like that? Is he a bit not much and things like that?
But I learned one thing from my grandmother and my parents. It’s none of my f”in’ well business what do you think about me. It’s none of my business what do you think about me, right? Because of the simple fact, if I leave that affect it, then I’m not my authentic self. So it’s a great bit of advice for everyone, not to care about the critics.
“It is not for the critic to put the strong man down because he has never gotten into the arena to fight blood, sweat, and tears to make that goal or dream a reality.”
Be an optimist. Don’t be a pessimist. Look, the glass is half full no matter which way you look at it. It’s just a matter of what side of the glass that you want to be on. And hang around with positive people. Be part of the tribe.
Stay connected. This is what we’re doing. This is one of our social interactivities, right? Okay. We need to see each other. We need to hug each other. We need to touch each other. And the simple fact about is things will get back to normal. I was there the other day and my little grandchildren, Lily it was my birthday and she made a cake at four years of age for her granddad. And she was running towards me to wish me, you know, a hug. Now, I’m the one that’s at risk, by the way, because I have a couple of conditions. And next I’m looking at her and she stops. And she said, “Granddad, do I have to give you a bridge?” You know, a hug. Right? I looked at the mother, the mother looked at me and we said, “Oh, fuck that.” Right? And she ran towards me, she caught me and she put her hands around me and she gave me such a big hug.
Now I am not paying for the fact … I’m a person that will take calculated risks. I’m calculating the fact, yes, if I get COVID I might die. But if I get COVID, it might be the best thing that ever happened to me. I might get out of the other side of it, and then I don’t give a shit about COVID and I’ll be cured. Right? So the thing with it is I’m not going to … There’s too many people, there’s going to be more … 10,000 suicides are going to be caused from this in England alone because of the mentality of us now being in lockdown, and loads of people are afraid to come out of it. Like, loads of people … But you look at the statistics, very important to look.
And look, one of the most important things in life is to have gratitude. Be grateful for what you have. And of course, we’re all suffering from all of those at some stage, whether it’s anxiety, stress. There’s not one of you that haven’t done it. And the thing I would say, like as you can see here, I tried to call it out: be an optimist, have hope, accept yourself, stay connected, find purpose, master your environment, and express gratitude. There, the advice that I would give anybody out there to get over this. And like get over yourself. Build a bridge, get over it.
Watch the full interview here: https://youtu.be/Zjru7Ph3bmE
Connect with Gerry here: https://www.linkedin.com/in/patfalvey/
The magic (and the hope) of live entertainment happens when all involved walk away shaking their heads in disbelief, dying to tell someone, “We were there when…” This cannot happen every time, even if the same people utter the same words time after time, as in a stage play that runs night after night, but it happens when a sprinkling of magic touches performers, crew and audience alike. And it happened several times on The Coffee at Eleven Show.
As we break for the summer, we thought we’d go back to the recordings and pull out a few of those moments where we can honestly and proudly say, “We were there when…”.
The plan is to share one “We were there when…”moment with you each week between now and September.
Come back next week for another installment of “We were there when…” from a guest who had Coffee with Colm on The Coffee at Eleven Show, brought to you by WIG-WAM – SME Peer Support